A PRACTICAL COMPANION
Before. During. After
When someone you love is nearing the end of life, time feels uncertain and decisions feel urgent. This guide gives families a practical structure to follow so that presence, conversations, and gatherings can unfold with intention rather than pressure.
Phase One: Before
While there is still time to be present and prepare. Conversations, roles, and what cannot be recreated.
Phase Two: During
Navigating the loss and planning how the life will be acknowledged. Gathering and ceremony.
Phase Three: After
Steady steps through the first 48 hours and the weeks that follow. Practical and personal.

This is a field guide, not a grief book, not a theological document. It provides structure for families in the middle of a difficult season.
Before, During, and After framework
Conversation scripts for hard moments
Practical checklists by role
Farewell event planning guidance
First 48 hours — step by step
Administrative and legal reminders
In the final season, three distinct responsibilities tend to emerge. Naming them reduces conflict, clarifies expectations, and helps each person contribute where they are best suited. One person may carry all three.
Role One
Manages day-to-day presence. Coordinates medical care, communicates with hospice, and absorbs the weight of being closest to the situation. Often the most depleted — and the least likely to ask for help.
If this is you: identify two people who can relieve you regularly, and ask for specific help rather than general offers.
Role Two
Handles legal, financial, and logistical responsibilities. May hold power of attorney or serve as executor. Their work begins before death and continues long after.
If this is you: confirm legal authority, locate documents, and review beneficiary designations while there is still time.
Role Three
Thinks about how the life will be acknowledged. Gathers stories, considers music and venue, and designs an experience that reflects the person rather than a generic ceremony.
If this is you: begin collecting photographs and stories now, while there is time to think clearly.
CHECKLISTS
Expanded checklists for each phase. Organized by role so that the right person handles the right task.
CONVERSATION GUIDES
What to say to a hesitant visitor. How to tell children. How to announce the passing.
WRITING THEIR STORY
A framework that captures the person, not just the timeline of life. Guides you from facts to essence.
ADMINISTRATION
Legal, financial, and logistical steps such as death certificates, benefits, accounts and more.
THE FAREWELL EVENT
How to design an experience that reflects the person and not a generic ceremony.
AFTER THE FAREWELL
Marking significant dates, preserving stories. The quiet work continues, one day at a time.
"Families who clarify preferences ahead of time consistently report less stress in the days immediately following death. The decisions still need to be made. They are made from a place of intention rather than shock."
Your Farewell Guide - Using the Final Weeks Well
Professional Support
A Certified Farewell Guide is a trained professional who helps families plan a meaningful and beautiful farewell event. They help families think clearly about how a life should be acknowledged.
A Certified Farewell Provider is an organization or business that employs or works with Certified Farewell Guides to deliver these services to families in their community. A Provider has the venue, equipment, and support staff required to create beautiful farewell events.
Both Guides and Providers are part of a growing network of professionals who believe that how we say goodbye matters.
Certified Farewell Guides come from a range of professional backgrounds, such as funeral service, hospice care, celebrant, elder care, senior living, and more.
If your work brings you alongside families navigating loss, the certification program may be a natural fit. Learn how the framework works and what the process involves.
Read the story behind the framework
A Beautiful Farewell, by John H. Callaghan. Available on Amazon
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